Most men considering a vasectomy are concerned about the decision. Will my sex life be that satisfying after that? Do I want this or am I just doing it to please my partner? How much will it hurt? These and similar questions need to be carefully considered and answered before a decision to have a vasectomy is made.
While you may be afraid of enjoying sex after a vasectomy, most men actually report increased sexual satisfaction. After a vasectomy there is no longer any fear of unwanted pregnancy or the need for other methods of contraception. This allows sex to be freer and more fun! (However, condoms are still needed to prevent STI transmission.) Contrary to what some men think, vasectomies do not Decrease testosterone or sex drive and don’t cause erectile dysfunction. Men are also concerned about ejaculate volume after a vasectomy. While you will no longer ejaculate sperm after a vasectomy, it only results in a 5% decrease in semen volume. You and your partner are unlikely to notice this small difference.
Men are used to making decisions about medical procedures to prevent or treat a health problem, but the process of deciding whether to have a vasectomy requires a different approach. While it is important that your partner is involved in the decision-making, pressure from the partner shouldn’t be your only motivation. Your partner may be in favor of the vasectomy so she no longer has to take responsibility for birth control. While this is an important consideration, the men who feel better about having a vasectomy have made the decision and incorporated it into their identities as men. Grief and loss are normal. Men need to process these feelings and claim a vasectomy decision as an active choice that reflects their values and a desire to take responsibility for procreation.
Navigating the facts and emotions of the vasectomy decision-making process is a complicated and confusing process. But you are not alone in this. Supportive therapy can help you understand related emotions and relationship problems.
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