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Management your inputs in difficult instances –

“We’re not all in the same boat, but we’re in the same storm.”

I saw this amazing quote at a conference the other day.

Such a poetic way of describing this journey that we are currently going through as humans on this planet.

I’ve been giving guest mindset lectures everywhere to help people find their center in this storm.

Here is an excerpt from one I recently did with my colleague Kate for the Young Professional Women of Australia. In this article, I’ll talk about your place of control and how we can shift our focus to have more control over our lives even through challenges.

Transcript

Kylie: We are going to dig deeper into this idea of ​​how you perceive the world, which affects the world you live in. There’s something you may be familiar with, this idea of ​​your place of control.

A reactive focus is on all of the things that you cannot control – think about the media, the economy, the virus and what is going on in other countries, the borders, the regulations, the government rules and things, whether your family gets sick or not not how to protect them, that kind of thing. In a broader sense, things that you cannot control.

When you focus on all of the things that you can’t control, it feels like the world is invading you and you can really get drawn into the media and other people’s opinions and all that. It really feels like the world is putting you down and what’s going on.

The only thing that you have 100 percent control over are your thoughts, feelings, language, and behavior.

From the other perspective, you can focus on a proactive focus and really think about what I can control here.

The only thing that you have 100 percent control over are your thoughts, feelings, language, and behavior.

These are the things that you can control 100 percent. It doesn’t depend on your partner, it doesn’t depend on your boss, it doesn’t depend on your co-workers. It’s “How do I frame this and what are the things that I am in control of?” And it is really the things that are inside of you that you have 100 percent control over.

When you focus on these and take responsibility for them, you get that proactive focus and then your influence begins to expand.

When you get in control of your own thoughts and feelings, it becomes less important what happens in the media, in business, in your job, or at your Aunt Meryl’s. It’s like what all of these things are doing outside of you matters less because you are in control of what happens inside you.

It’s a really powerful skill that you can really master for any job, for any situation, for any person. When you have this proactive control over yourself and know how to filter things and what to allow, this is a really powerful skill.

So many of us fall into the trap of constantly overloading ourselves with information.

Kate: Talk more about this Kylie, this piece about what you allow.

Kylie: There’s this kind of general view that you need to see the news, you need to know what is happening, you need to know what is going on. That’s true to a certain extent, and of course depending on your industry. You need to know what is going on in your industry.

But I think so many of us fall into the trap of constantly overloading ourselves with information. And then we scroll, we fill in with other people’s opinions and other people’s agendas and other people’s ideas.

There’s so much going on on social media about conspiracy theories and anti-Vaxxers. It doesn’t really matter where you sit on any of this right now. It is not relevant.

What is relevant is the idea that there are all of these opinions and that everyone has an opinion. And the more dogmatic people are about their opinions, the more likely they are to try to penetrate your mind or provoke a response in you.

It gets you on a pendulum when you get stuck in other people’s opinions. You either agree with the person and what they say or you disagree. But when you’re involved in this, it takes your mental energy, intent, emotional focus, and you into a drama where you really have no control over the outcome.

If you are talking to someone else about their opinion or thinking about something that is going on in Chechnya, Africa or the UK, you have no control over it. I mean, if you’re a political correspondent or a journalist, you might be, but that’s different.

Most of us have no control or power to make an impact in such situations, and so we are caught up in all of these things that we cannot control and feel powerless as a result. It consumes our energy and productivity because you are not producing anything. It drains us.

It is important to be clear about what a yes and what a no is for you.

Someone said, “How do I stay focused and purposeful and productive when I’m at home?”

It is important to be clear about what a yes and what a no is for you. It really is quite easy to get clear about how to remove distractions related to media you don’t need to see, scrolling you don’t need to see, and really weeding out things that don’t lead to a positive, resourceful state Contributing and empowering step for you to be proactive about what thoughts you let into your head

Kate: I noticed a pattern that woke up, looked at social media, got up, had a cup of tea, turned on the TV, ABC or CNN. And then all of a sudden the vortex is there and you spend two hours consuming content as opposed to an alternative route that is getting up, walking, meditating while you are out, coming back, having a cup of tea, reading a little and listening a bit of media, like an 8:00 am press conference in New South Wales. Cut that after 10 minutes and then I’m done and starting my day.

First of all, it was a choice, and I could choose it too. When I made this conscious choice that led me to the TV, I knew it was going to be a fuss for two hours. It was a conscious choice. Second, just really watching what impact they had on everything that followed. So do that, then this is the next, this is the next.

Kylie: Cascade, cascade, cascade, cascade.

Kate: Take the other path and it would be 12:00 noon before I even think about checking out the media and what the update is for the day and things like that.

The more we can focus on what will produce things of value to the world, the more powerful we become.

Kylie: I agree. I remember a video from Brendon Burchard. He’s a different thinking and productivity trainer. He said that your inbox is other people’s agenda and that you should spend the morning of your day focusing on your big priorities, what you want to create, what you want to achieve, which will help you move forward with that Freshest Energy Emerges The day you are in the best of shape is not focused on other people’s agendas at all, but on what to create, what to do. So, achieve your goals first.

This is really about prioritizing your ability to be creative. And it really takes a lot of strength to be able to say no to these things and even say no to yourself who wants to go down a rabbit hole. It’s very engaging, it’s addicting to go down that scrolling rabbit hole and get involved in that way, look up the media and feel what’s going on and all that. It feels like you’re doing something, but you it is not.

To be productive, you have to produce something. You have to produce something that you end up having, how to make a report, you make a training. We are currently producing something. We create something that is useful, that is of value. The more we can focus on what will actually produce results, what will produce things of value to the world, the more powerful we become.

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