Hey all you savvy self-indulgence – this one is for you guys! You may have mastered the art of Clitoral stimulationand are well versed in getting rid of themselves. When it comes to self-penetration, things get a little more complicated.
From slippery mishaps to accidental ouches, figuring out how to properly penetrate yourself can be difficult. We’re here to help or at least provide some additional pointers on how to do it yourself.
Get the right equipment
First things first … take your poison!
Type of. Here you decide what exactly you will use for penetration. Choosing the perfect dildo (note to editor: link to article on choosing dildo, if published) because you can take some trial and error. But what a fun way to experiment – do it for science!
It seems like the possibilities are endless in the world of dildos. From glass to crystal, ceramic, silicone, metal and more, you may not know what works for you until you try.
There are devices out there that do more work for you, like dildo riding machines and sex tools. Penetrative vibrators are constantly evolving, with tricks like a movement aimed at the target G-spotor attached clitoral stimulators.
Keep in mind that heavier materials like glass and metal take a little more work to get them into position and may require more focus overall.
While you won’t be able to get that deep, fingers absolutely count as penetration, and they are completely free and incredibly convenient.
You may have encountered some roadblocks trying to rush into things and jump straight into penetration … much like your high school friend.
Just like if you had sex with another person foreplay is important!
The complex structures of the female erogenous zones consist of networks of Erectile tissue. When the body has the time to build arousal, it responds. Your heart rate speeds up, your cheeks are flushed, and your pupils dilate.wet”. Aka – you are cool!
Preparing the body for penetration doesn’t necessarily sound sexy, but it is exactly that.
Of course, you probably won’t be making out with yourself, but there are plenty of ways you can tap into and prepare for your sexual zone.
- Dance in your room. Whip your hair around. Touch and rub anywhere. Move your limbs and get your energy flowing. This is especially fun in front of a mirror.
- Take a bath or a hot shower. Hot is the key here. Light a candle. Take the time to feel the water rushing over your body.
- Self massage. Before you go downstairs, take your favorite oils and practice a self-massage. Work from your face to your neck, chest, breasts, stomach, thighs, feet and back. You are even more than welcome to massage in your mouth and on your inner and outer labia.
- Check out ethical porn if you are into it! Homemade porn and sexting are also great options.
Wild, wildly wet
All of that foreplay can make you feel slippery downstairs. If not, don’t worry! Just call for a backup by reaching for yours Favorite lubricant.
Which lubricant you choose is entirely up to you. Just check if it is compatible with your dildo or the penetration object of your choice.
* Warning! Make sure to put a test patch on your inner wrist whenever you try a new lubricant. The last thing you want when trying to please yourself is irritation and itching.
One of the more difficult parts of figuring out the best way to get inside yourself is figuring out which position is best for you. You need to finagle your arms and hands at the correct angle and align them with your vulva and vagina. This can also lead to hand cramps.
Take a break and stretch the carpal tunnel muscles if necessary. There is no rush!
Start slowly, we will remind you again of the importance of foreplay. It is very likely that you will enjoy clitoral stimulation before inserting anything into your vagina.
If there are certain positions that you enjoy while having sex with another person, you can work on replicating them yourself.
Doggy style, missionary, lying on your side, standing up, squatting and more are all possible if they penetrate themselves. Another fun option is to put your dildo on your bed or stable surface and ride it cowgirl style.
If a position doesn’t seem to work, you can try it from the other side, switch hands, or go back to front. Long arms are helpful here.
Feel free to use props, pillows, straps, furniture, and anything else you need to support yourself while you enjoy yourself. Get creative!
Hot tip: While it’s great to find something that you know is stopping you, we encourage you to explore and experiment with yourself. You never know what to discover! The goal is not an orgasmIt’s just pleasure and curiosity.
Listen to your body
If you’ve tried and just don’t seem to be enjoying it (or whatever), that’s totally fine – not everyone does! Penetration is not the end of it all, be it sex and masturbation.
But if you are experiencing Pain on penetrationit could indicate a reproductive health disorder such as a yeast infection STI, or Endometriosis.
Natasha’s passion for reproductive health began at the age of fourteen when she was present at the birth of her youngest sister. Her incredible experiences as a birthing doula gave her insights into the magical realm of childbirth, pregnancy and everything in between. Your role as an obstetrician is her way of serving as an activist. She uses writing as an important educational tool to bring about changes in our view of reproductive health as a whole.