I am often surprised when asked if we offer gay sex medicine (as if the person a person has sex with determines sexual function). The short answer is “yes”, but then I feel really uncomfortable with that answer too! We are working in the sexual medicine period. Gay, bi, straight, pansexual, asexual, omnisexual, whatever – The labels just don’t matter. Gender does not matter either. If you need any help, we’d be happy to help.
But I understand. I understand where the question usually comes from. For many patients, their experience with doctors and sexual problems has been fraught with trauma. Most people find it difficult to discuss sexual problems with their doctor. If someone is in a sexual minority, this conversation can be terrifying. Unfortunately, I’ve heard too many stories from patients and their harrowing experiences with doctors who were less sensitive to patient concerns.
When asked about gay sex medicine, I hear the unspoken question, “Am I sure I will come to your practice?” “Will my sexuality be a problem?” “Will I feel bad / awkward / perverted / weird / marginalized / dehumanized / unaccepted when I come to Maze for help?”
The answer is a resounding confirmation of who you are, your sexuality, your sexual expression, and you! One of the first appointments is when the patient sits down with a therapist and we find out where we can help and what treatment goals are being pursued. We don’t tell the patient what our goals are – we listen to them and align our goals with the patient’s wishes. If you have any sexual questions or concerns, please contact us for a free telephone consultation. We will do our best to help you best sex life possible. Who you want to have sex with is entirely up to you!